Big question.
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Originally Posted by nowheretorun
for me, i guess i work very hard at finding solutions to the problems i become aware of during my day and i know i spend a fair amount of time in trying to find understanding and come to a peaceful place in my own mind so the rest of the day can go a little more smoothly.. again, all self serving...
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I can agree with that one for starters. Looking for a "peaceful place" amid life's problems...it's not about denial, which I think we are sometimes accused of, but just trying to keep an even keel.
And that's probably even more true for those of us with mood disorders.
For me, having an emotionally-charged conversation about a problem, which might be seen as "venting," really just gets me more upset.
But there are times when an open discussion of a problem would prevent getting upset at all, and I realize that.
I admit I'm leery of the communication gender wars. There is a lot of stereotyping that goes on and soon both parties have a Catch-22 where they can't say anything without "proving" the stereotypes.
Reminds me of the old joke, "If a man says something alone in a forest, is he still wrong?"