Hi all, I am early 40s and interested in how other people at any point in middle age are getting along with aging/eldery parent(s), especially parents who have issues letting go and respecting their kids as independent people.

I'll start off by saying I feel blessed to have financially stable parents because I know they can give me some help during this bad economy (my job was recently eliminated, so back on the job hunt ).

But my dad in particular becomes overbearing during any type of crisis, badgering me with questions and wanting to know how I am managing my affairs while I work through it. I think he sees his behavior as justified because I may have to borrow money. I think that's bogus.

I think I am a pretty competent and functional person. I don't think I am doing harmful things that require intervention. I got laid off! So I have to spend less and look for work. I don't see that I need any kind of "oversight" at this time. (Maybe if he had current job experience as a recruiter he could tell me what to do in an interview, but he's been retired a really long time... )

Again I count my blessings because I know they will help me out if it comes to that. But I have been a working, married adult for a long time! It's like he doesn't believe that I actually left the nest.

Anybody dealing with this stuff? Suggestions on putting up with it? Do you let it slide? Confront it? (Not too sure about confronting, he does not like anyone suggesting he is doing anything wrong, then relations get even more tedious...)

Thanks folks.