I'm really sorry but am I the only one living on a completely different planet from everyone else??? "Refusing to have sex = Manipulation" So someone who doesn't want sex is doing that only for manipulation and how the hell is it grounds for divorce?? Are you supposed to force people to have sex if they don't want it? Isn't that called something else? Isn't sex something to be done by two (or more, I have an open mind) CONSENTING adults?
Aren't relationships meant to be more than just sex or based solely on sex?
I'm sorry if I have misread your comments or taken them out of context but that is how it looks to me.

I've been used for sex, which I don't mind, but I only mind when they pretend to like me or love me. If they came up front about it right at the beginning and told me it was only sex then fine. No hidden agendas, everybody knows where they stand. Am I just too simple?

Marjan - I'm not directing or questioning any of this to you, I haven't really read all of your posts or contents but it sounds like it wasn't a healthy relationship and probably best you are now out of it and I wish you the best of luck.