I think one key thing in the concept of forgiveness is that to forgive some is: not to forget what they've done, not telling yourself or them that it was OK, it not telling yourself that you can't be angry and hurt about it anymore, and its not about making yourself treat them nicely if you see them again.

To me forgiveness is about relieving yourself of the burden of trying to make them pay on a (moral/personal level) for what they've done to you. It is when we decide to let our Higher Power handle things-- judging the crime and rendering the deeper punishment for us. When I say that I'm not talking about giving up pursuing legal or criminal, I think that is something totally different. I think forgiveness comes into play when we are dealing with things, that...there is no man-made law severe enough to match the crime. Its the point we decide...let this issue be handled in the Highest court, I just need to worry about me now.