OMG!! I am, and have been, having a MAJOR problem w/ this crap! I swear.....I'm gonna have to get a saddle so my dad can be more comfortable while he's ON MY BACK!!! Just LET me fall, skin my knees, and pull MYSELF up! But noooooooooooooo! MY father is like ganging up w/ my SOON to be ex-bf.....behind my back, and creating havoc w/ my psychi ! It's a long story; I have a thread in the Anxiety forum about my recent meltdown and hospitalization.
I have one bit of advice for you: DO NOT TAKE ANY MONEY from your parents/father unless you ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO! I made that mistake, but I really didn't have any choice at the time. There is just NOT enough "thanks" I can bestow on him and he always throws it in my face about how MUCH he has helped me! It serves to keep me in a child-like state feeling stupid, unworthy, and invalidated! My self-esteem can't take anymore pummeling in my present fragile, fractious, state. I just got out of the psych hospital a week ago after "events" lead up to another suicide attempt....and I would NOT be here writing this if my , soon-to-be ex-bf had not come home unexpectedly! And MY father (he's 87 !) is a closet misogynist who treats me like I'm just a silly little girl w/ passions, causes, and ideas (I'm Vegan)that are...well..."silly", childish, and invalid! Of course, he thinks I SURELY need a man to POLICE me and keep me on the straight and narrow !
When I was in the hospital, (ICU) he (actually his WIFE!!) wrote a 4 page letter to the doctors that was incredibly embellished, about everything wrong I have EVER done......and I'm "middle-aged", too. He also called and talked to the doc on the phone, TOTALLY breaching doctor-patient confidentiality! When I got out of ICU (regular hospital) I was transferred to a psych hospital, where, I had specific instructions for them NOT to allow ANY info. to be given to my father..........not EVEN to let him know I was there!!! Meanwhile, he was communicating w/ the bf !
So, the suicidal, mentally "unstable", anorexic little girl is back home and The Chinese "water treatment" continues!! I have for now, cut off my father except for email because, right now I am gaining stability and I can't handle the undermining. I'm getting ENOUGH of that from the live-in soon-2-b-ex-bf who has been chipping away at my self esteem for the last 4 years or so.
We are both on the lease in this apartment and I can't afford to live here alone, so his threatening to leave serves to undermine and keep me on pins and needles. This is dirty pool !! He flops back and forth from being nice to being cruel and unfeeling........"we'll just be room mates", he says, until the lease is up....but IF I slip up just ONCE, he's outta here.......leaving me in financial ruin !! .....just kill me now......