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Old Apr 19, 2009, 11:07 AM
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Originally Posted by ThePainNeverDies View Post
I do feel responsible for others, like I'm ruining their lives a lto of the time. Even when i'm trying to help them.

I try not to let harmful people come within access to me. I find it hard, though. i feel I deserve to be hurt and stuff.

How can I find/make those boundaries? It seems so impossible.
Try to fight this belief that you are responsible for others? This is really a boundary issue too. Maybe think about where you end and others start. This line shouldn't be crossed too much.

So do you think that you seek out harmful people to punish yourself?

To make boundaries you have to 1) be aware of what is going on with you and what is going on between you and others. 2) you have to be aware of what you need. 3) you have to be able to formulate the boundary and then let it be known and enforce it.
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