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Originally Posted by arachne66
When I talk of self punishment, I am referring to very negative self talk, not forgiving myself for the abuse, and probably the very isolated life that I've lived for too long.
I am very uncomfortable with having or doing nice things for myself because I feel unworthy.
the abuse has not repeated itself due to my isolation. I keep myself safe by isolating.
Emotion mind is so strong, it's hard to refute what it says and it beats me down so much when I try to break free from all of this. This is so hard.
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Hi Arach, I have heard it explained that most people blame themselves for the abuse because it gives them a sense of control. They will be safer now if they were responsible for the abuse back then. To give up this belief means that you have to admit that you had no control over it. Children are at the mercy of the adults around them. You are no longer a child now so you are no longer at the mercy of others so you do have control over your life that you didn't have as a child.
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