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Hi Chaotic! Good work communicating with your husband and getting the changes that you needed (the improvements so far)!
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Yes, this weekend my H even made it a point to attend a gathering at my friends house even though he really didn't want to go. I think he has a good time after he gets there, but usually he doesn't bother attending stuff like this with me. Him going demonstrates that he is really trying.
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So your husband is triggering you. Have you talked to your T about this? It would be hard to get close to him if he is triggering you.
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Believe it or not YES. I've told her about how some of his health issues trigger memories of my father and the tension that existed in this relationship. I've mention that I am hypersensative to certain things... well that are difficult to avoid in an intimate encounters. Then most recently I told her how the "I want to do things to you" statement didn't sit well with me and was not helpful at all.
IDK... I think I am talking to my T about things, its just not helping. I feel like I mention things... she listens, sometimes says she can see how that would bother me... but it doesn't help. I feel like all I do is mention that things bother me but I never know what to do to fix it. 
As for touching without the expectation of him having a happy ending.... not likely at the moment.
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Last edited by chaotic13; Apr 19, 2009 at 10:29 PM.
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