i'd love to do that - it's hard though because the docs have been useless for her so far, which is frustrating as it makes her disillusioned before she even starts. she's extremely dependent - presumably due to everyone treating her like poo and deserting her frequently in the past - which... well it's kind of er... i really wish i could help but it's getting to the point where i can't, i know i can't, i'm feeling imposed upon. i have exams, i have this horrible anniversary today, i'm hardly sleeping, i'm stressed stressed stressed and much as i like her i just can't deal with her problems too. and i know for a fact if i say anything she'll think i've deserted her. even if i go so far as to say could she leave me be today. i did ask her this (i want to be alone today for the anniversary) and she took offence. i had to explain the reason and then felt guilty. if i say something small like "i won't be here later" she goes off on one about she's in my way and i hate her being there and i hate her and so on - how the hell do i get her to see that her being in my way once or twie DOESN'T equal i hate her? because that's the problem - i can't say anything without upsetting her and that makes me nervous and i'm so frustrated!