It has to be worse for you having it be your husband who is the N. Our daughter is the same way. The one thing she has done is she has gone through her schooling. At 42, she has never held down a job, and I really fear she is going to use this education to take advantage of the elderly more than she has before. I hope that doesn't happen, she could end up in jail. I hope that your husband at least gets some counseling; maybe that would help you. I feel bad for you. You must be tough to stick with him so long.