I knwo I have boundary issues, i guess it's because I care about others so much and so little about myself.

This is common actually. All of us who grew up in dysfunctional homes didn't get our needs met and we actually were "trained" to meet the needs of others or someone else. To stop this you have to tune into your needs and figure out why you keep ignoring them. For me I had this little thought in my head that my mom would stop loving me if I met my needs. This thought was formed when I was small and had little thinking skills. My mom didn't tune into me and our whole family revolved around her needs so I formed this message. Once I recognized this my problem was solved. It is making the unconscious conscious. Our unconscious has so much power to control what we do.

I feel dumb and stupid and like a little kid.

This also happened to all of us here. Dysfunctional upbringings don't allow emotional development so we all entered adulthood with the emotions of 4 -5 years olds. You can grow up emotionally quickly if you heal.

I know what's going on between me and others, I know what I need... I just don't know hwo to enforce boundaries. i feel guilty if I don't help others as much as I used to, I feel like others will hate me more.

This message would definitely hold you up here. Maybe address this message and tear it down logically.

I just hate this place so much... I just want to get out of this place,

Can you move? Seems like there are a lot of unhealthy people there.

I'm sick of feeling lazy and fat and ugly.

None of this is true............

So why can't I Just Change It??

Change requires a step by step plan. First you identify the problems. Understand them very well and then chose your solution. You might have to try different solutions. You have identified some problems here and I have responded to get you to think about them and understand them better.

I don't know. No-one here'll help me move out, maybe? No-one here is actually supporting my plans? No-one is actually confirming that my plans are great plans? Even though I know they are... Because they're right for me... Grrrrrr. Hate it!!!!

So your plans have to be validated by others???????