Eskielover has a good point here Ozzie ... sitting down and trying to write some of it out, what he does & says and how it makes you feel, might help you figure out when "it" bes coming, and if you have a T you can sit down with him/her and plan some coping or even exit strategies to use at those times. It does not have to be a hopeless situation, though Mal understands it can feel that way when you feel blindsided by it continually.

Hoping for a breakthrough for you on this.