(((((((((((Ozzie))))))))))

I'd be tired of being manipulated too! Nothing is wrong with you - you're human, and we're allowed to make mistakes. It does suck when it's a continuous pattern though...

You are not bad, nor an idiot. Especially with those people who have problem addictions, sometimes they can react manipulatively to others ... and if we're caught up in the pattern sometimes, we can't find the way out until after we've reacted! That's normal, sucks but it is normal!

Question for you though, and answer it honestly to yourself: Are you trying to "fix" him and his behaviour? I know I try to fix others... I get manipulated by them, because I'm trying to be the "good person" and help them out. Especially when they've got big issues - like an addiction. It burns you out! You CANT fix him. You CANT change him. Only HE can do that.

It sounds like you need a vacation away from him, maybe? A time to think/breathe/relax? Have you talked to a therapist about this?

If we're too easily manipulated, it's usually because we don't have appropriate boundaries to protect ourselves. That sometimes comes as a result of similar past relationships, or just past relationships with others where you weren't allowed to have boundaries. Or you were deeply hurt... so once again, not developing appropriate boundaries to deal with other people's manipulative behaviour is NORMAL given any circumstances that made you who you are and how you react in situations.

Ozzie - go easy on yourself, please. You are important. I'm glad I've "stumbled upon" you here, I was wondering what was new with you.