Safe sex is good. I've had a fair amount of partners, most of them within the same year or so, and within that same year, lots of guys I was sexual with without actually having intercourse (you can still pass on STIs like that, so safe sex people!). I wasn't doing it because of abuse or looking for love or whatever, the plain and simple fact was that I enjoyed sex and I enjoyed the adventure of someone new, sometimes a stranger because there was a risk there and I liked it. It was exciting to me to think of the risks involved. Thank goodness nothing terrible happened. I am now very happily married.

It annoys me when people assume that just because a woman is having a lot of sex she must have been abused or suffering low self esteem, which may be the case for some, but not everyone. Lots of women enjoy sex. Nothing wrong with that.

As for the numbers talk, if you're healthy, happy and what not, it's not your partners business if you've been with 1 man or 100 men, nor is it his business if you've been treated for STIs (ones that don't stick around after the antibiotics that is) or if you've had any unwanted pregnancies (unless of course, there is a child in your life).