{{{{{{{{{{Wants2}}}}}}}}}}}}} Be open to what your mother needs to get off her chest. Losing a child this way is not much different than losing them to death. It's a mourning process. Just in the last few months I've been able to talk about Karla without stirring up old feelings. I had a beatifull, precocious child while she was growing up. She was well behaved and never got into trouble during her teenage years and I have to give her credit for getting her MA after she was married and had two boys AND struggling with Paranoid Schizophrenia. I rely very heavily on the happy years that we had.

Take all this as you can. You not only have to help and understand your mother's feelings, but you've got your own feelings to deal with.