My boyfriend and I have been officially dating about 3 months and were talking/hanging out for a little bit before we started dating. Well, of course, like all rose-colored sunglass type couples we spend like every second together (exaggerating of course).
well anyways, his roommate has been his best friend for several years now. And dave (my bf) has gone to him and apologized that he's at my house a lot and that we go out a lot but he still wants to hang out with him and not burn any bridges or piss off the people that have been there for him and his friend's response was that he was fine with it and understood that, when you have a girlfriend, that's what happens typically.
So dave has been spending more time at home trying to make time for his roommate and I always say "stay home and hang out for a while before you come over" because I don't want to be that kind of girlfriend.
Well the other day I saw his roommate at school and he called me a "friend stealer" then started telling me how dave is "so far up my ***" and that I "love every minute of it". Made me feel kind of bad because I make it a point to not be the controlling girlfriend that requires my boyfriend to be around me every second.
So I asked dave if he thought I was being too controlling and asking him to come over too much or any of that and he said that his roommate will say things just to see how riled up he can get you. Then I started thinking and, one other time his roommate says "oh I saw you wrote on Rachel's wall" (facebook....because we're 13 apparently) and dave said "yeah, I wanted to thank her for giving me her towel because I lost mine" (they give out towels at the basketball games here and his fell under the bleachers). and his roommate's response was "mmm hmmm" with this look that said "oh I'm so sure that's why you wrote that" and apparently he was just doing that to put thoughts in my head like dave was interested in Rachel.
I just don't get it. Relationships are hard enough and require enough patience and work. And, not to mention, I'm already crazy enough as it is. Why does he have to consistently say things to make me think that something is up? I try not to let my mind wander and think things but sometimes you just can't help it. And I don't know why he's doing this on purpose but then saying "it's cool. i understand you want to be around her a lot".
And then, to top it off, him and his girlfriend are on and off every other week and, whenever they're on, he's nowhere to be found. Dave will stay home to specifically hang out with him and he'll be at his girlfriend's house. How am I supposed to deal with him being so f-ing difficult? And they just resigned their lease so they'll be living together for at least another year. And I hate seeing Dave tore up about something his roommate said or did and feeling bad for not being around when he does the same exact thing!
Aren't friends supposed to be supportive.....not make backhanded comments and purposely try to put suspicious thoughts in your girlfriend's head?
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