He doesn't have to be clueless if he's willing to put a little effort into it. There are a lot of books out there that can give a glimpse of what you're going through. He may not totally understand it but it'll give him a clue. My family read the Manic-Depressive Workbook and they said it really helped. My dad said after reading it that me and a lot of the things I'd done throughout my life made a lot more sense! That was huge.

Good luck!