I love myself through giving myself what Albert Ellis calls "Unconditional Self Acceptance" (USA). This has really worked for me. I have found that if I ACCEPT myself, warts and all, as I accept others, that that is how best I can love myself.

Loving myself does not consist of beating myself up over every imperfection or action. I try to separate my actions from my personhood.

Whereas before I would say "I am a stupid person", now I say "I am a person who acted stupidly." I condemn my action but do not condemn my personhood.

Thi has made a HUGE difference for me and has made it ever so much easier to unconditionally accept myself. Does this make sense?