There's nothing wrong with how you feel. You have every right to feel uncomfortable. Regardless if this caretaker is interested in you or not. If you feel she's crossed the line with you then you have the right to either put the distance between you guys or if it continues regardless what you do then you can have a respectful conversation with her and tell her how you feel. You dont have to address her homosexuality but instead tell her when she hugs and call you honey it makes you feel uncomfortable. If she doesn't understand then she has a problem and is disrespectful.