Well I've only been married for 8 years and my husband and I are having sexual problems too but you have to remember, and I say this in the most uspportive way possible, eventually the sex always comes to an end. As long as you two are happy together and love each other that's all that really matters. You have to remember that when you're 80 and sitting in your rocking chair it's not very likely that you're going to be running off to the bedroom to have sex. Instead wouldn't it be better if you can sit there and hold hands and enjoy each others company so much that it will fill your heart with more joy then sex ever could.
I hope i've been helpfull. There's more to life and marriage then sex.
I'm not having sex with my husband and we're just as close now as we were when we first got together.
It will all work out for the best. Just hang in there.
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Originally Posted by Paul Simmons
Hi everyone, I'm a newby. About a month ago my wife said she was not sexually attracted to me anymore. She says she loves me more than anything, and says she could stay in our relationship forever if it didn't include sex. We have been married 12 years together 16. Our sex life has always been pretty active, although she has always had problem with sex drive or desire. I think she might have been just doing it the last 16 years to keep me happy. So now the roles are reversed , we haven't had sex in the last month. I'm not pushing anything because I want her to be happy.
We are getting counseling and it is helping. How can I help my wife get through this? I'm having problems holding it together, because it hurts thinking I'm not the "complete" package for her.
Any advise appreciated.
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