Hello!

He does have the right to discipline your son -- and from what I've read it seems like he does have good intentions -- because you are all a family now, living under the same roof. The basic quality needed for your family to be successful is love so if he is being to hard on your son, tell him to ease up a bit, in a loving, non threatening way. Instead of berating your kid, tell him to be kind and patient with him. Let him know that it would mean a lot to you if he and your son spent more time together. That usually works much better.

I don't know how long you two have been together but it usually takes time for stepkids to accept a new "parent". It is probably better if you handle the discipline part until your b/f and your son develop a stronger relationship, and until then your boyfriend should be more concerned about being supportive of your son to strengthen their relationship.

Stepfamilies can be successful and yours is no exception! If there is real love and devotion between all of you, it will work.

Good luck!