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Originally Posted by chaotic13
Miri, I think you make a good point about trying to "act if" in your own thinking...You made me think of the Little Engine that Could"..."I think I can, I think I can, I know I can." Concept. If our thoughts and attitude can make a big difference in the outcome of a situation.
I don't know why I continue to treat myself this way. Other than... I would really like to have a healthy relationship with my H... So I keep trying to pushing myself
beyond my discomfort.
As I reflect on last week with a little more separation... I think I took one thing my T said and skewed it into something harmful. I've mention before, that for whatever reason, I then to force myself into doing things that I know are not in my best interests. I think I get some sick benefit from forcing myself to do things.
It is ME who takes comments like Fake it til you make it to a major extreme.
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I find that. too, Someone will make some casual comment and it feels like it expands inside my brain and takes over, not usually having a good outcome. I try so hard to avoid this and it's so hard! For me, it's usually associated with being manic - I'm bipolar as well as having DID - and some part of me takes something and puts it under a microscope, dissects it, etc., until it becomes a huge deal. Continue trying to be true to yourself, know what you need. Sometimes what your need will be to put something extra into a relationship because you want and need to improve that relationship. Still, I hope the benefits are higher than the cost and that it will lead to a lot less "Faking it!" Best of luck!