Kathy, thank you for your reply. Yes, I understood most of that as you intended, but wished to be sure. I do, however, think that your analogy of </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
ive also seen people instigate stuff out of a feeling of boredom , and also out of a fear that "Hey maybe im not important enough to anyone to cause a hostile or defensive reaction and that pisses me off . . ."

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> might be from a different perspective than what the truth may assert.

How does one know that someone is "instigating" , especially out of boredom or fear, without projecting something onto them? Maybe they are really seeking, maybe they are not as far along the pathway to understand these concepts yet, and are truly reaching out, however pitiful it may seem to some? Are we not judging if we attribute their posting to boredom or fear? Would I be correct in stating that your being PO'd and stating so is purely for attention? I do not believe that, but I could think it and decide that was your intention. And I would be inccorect. Plus, what good would it do me to think that way about you, and your posts. Again, I say that it's usually best, imo, to take posts at face value. I do not wish to judge another, project any of my perspective or what I believe to be true of another member, onto them. Let what the post says stand as evidence in itself as a testimony to what that member wanted to say at the time. To refer to native history, I believe it is said in something about walking in another's moccasins...

Recently there was a thread that also addressed how WE react to another. I have head knowledge of how hurtful it is to myself to allow someone else's feelings and thoughts affect me adversely. Nothing another says can truly change who I am. Now once I consistently get my feelings to follow that head knowledge, I will be better off.
What do you think about these things?