kathieanita,

The posting of this subject & the responses is what I have always felt a forum is meant to provide...a place for one to express an opinion or thought or feeling....& a place for others to answer as they feel necessary to express their feelings, opinions,& thoughts without getting all bent out of shape because they didn't get the answer they wanted.

I have noticed that it is very hard to understand the meaning of some posts without knowing the persons background, seeing them & their actions & hearing their voice...all of what makes up a person..thus making it necessary to interpret the post as I read it which isn't always as it was posted. When I get into this position, I try to look into the past posts that have been made by the person to try to get a better understanding of where they are coming from. When I do that, I have now learned that if I have doubts about how to respond because I don't want my response to be taken the wrong way either & don't want to be a part of any drama that is possible to occur. Thinking the saying here applies..."if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". It is a fine line we walk here at times & common sense in the way we respond is necessary. That doesn't mean that we cant provide helpful responses & not just the "poor baby" response that are safe, but we need to be aware of how to put our ideas out there diplomaticaly.

Just my thoughts on my experiences & observations,
Debbie