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Old Apr 23, 2009, 08:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Merlin View Post
I am afraid to take the next step. It is such a primitive fear, and nothing I say to myself makes it go away. And then I get a lump in my throat and become agitated and I just don't take that step.

I want to be close to people.
I had to overcome a fear of intimacy. I worked on personal boundaries and my self worth with this issue. If you have low self worth you don't want people too close to be seeing who you really are. I think one of the first steps to improving self worth is to really understand how it got that way (because these thoughts will continue to feed the low self worth until you uncover them and overturn them

The boundaries are important because before they get healthy they are either too loose and permeable or like a brick wall to protect yourself. Understanding your boundaries really well is the first step and then playing with them is the next (real experiences to test them and give you practice!).
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