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Old Apr 23, 2009, 09:24 AM
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Originally Posted by Pomegranate View Post
For me I think part of the difficulty of trusting is the loss of control feeling I get.

Real intimacy is scary,

people might disappoint you, they might not be there for you when you need them, they might not truly understand, they might even judge you.
Hi Pomegranate! I guess empowerment would come in here for you. Empowerment would allow you to retain your power in any situation.

The stuff that I bolded up there ^, these are all things that you cannot control and with further healing should not affect you. I guess boundaries and empowerment come in here. Boundaries to block other people's stuff from affecting you and empowerment to help you to see that what other people do is there business and not yours.

These are good points. I am glad that you brought them out for discussion.
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Thanks for this!
Pomegranate