hi echoes long ago

it is possible to find understanding but it isnt always easy.. its hardest for me to not let whats being said become harmful because when i was younger my family relations with a few of the family members left emotional scars that even now remind me of feeling helpless to defend myself and in conversations i sometimes hear things that really arent being said.. my current girlfriend is helping me to work with this so i feel really grateful that we are able to work on it together.. we still have misunderstandings and sometimes our feelings get hurt but we are very careful to say i love yous during the talk and that keeps us mellower.. we let each other be imperfect and we practice letting go of any hurt feelings that come out of our talks so it doesnt build up over time and continue causing problems.. once something is talked about we dont repeat words said from a previous misunderstanding, we forgive and start over fresh after every talk..

the woman who asked me to post this sent a pm letting me know that the guys help here is helping and they are beginning to have more discussions together.. thats great news! thanks everyone