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Originally Posted by bgmom123
I have been marreid for a few months. I was reading through my husbands email and found that he had two "emotional affairs" or maybe even "cyber sex" with two different women one of them three months before we married. Both were while we were engaged and living together. This is one man that I never thought would do something like this. I trusted him with everything I have. We are both near 40 and have children. If I had found out before we married, the wedding would have definately been put on hold.Now that we are married, I don't want a divorce. I want to trust him again. I never thought I coudl love anyone this much. Do you think it is possible to cheat and then be faithful....I don't want to be a fool.
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I'm so sorry to hear that....This is really bad, but why did you read his email? you violated his privacy as well....and if you tell him that you read his email, it means that he can't trust you either!
I do this reading emails and I feel so guilty about it....very bad idea...
I think now that you know, it's better you tell him and be nice about it and be mature....tell him that you read his email and you found out and you are hurt and ask him why? It's better he has an answer for it then....
the other option is, just leave the situation as it is and watch him if he did one more time, then you bring it up....
Probably, at the time that you were engaged, he wasn't that serious still....but now that you are married with him, it's different!
good luck
Marjan