Thanks everyone for your input. Yes, red flags indeed. As to the arrest he claimed she hit him with the car (dual car accident) then she tried to leave and he restrained her. Motorist saw this and when someone separated them he kicked at her. He claims she was a drama queen and the attorneys told him due to witnesses and the drama queen he would not stand a chance and to plead guilty to a lesser charge. I can understand why he never said anything in the begining, who would? no one wants to tell about mistakes they have made unless it becomes neccessary. When he told me he claimed that everytime he saw me on cam he felt the need to tell me but just could not do it.
What I do not understand is how this man was so perfect for two solid weeks. i dont know, maybe that is an ability with whatever defect he has.
I have been researching on the net extensively and while a friend of mine who I showed some of this mans chat too said he is a sociopath I do not think now that this is the case but rather that he is a narcisist (sp?). Mainly because he will admit his life is not good and I have seen in my relationship with him how he needs to make himself seem better then he is.
Rest assured at this point I am not inviting him. But, I do really feel a need to understand him, if that is even possible. And, at least to understand what he is suffering from.
Again, thank you all for your input and support, it is really greatly appreciated.