so i'm wondering if intensity during love making comes along with years of loving one another or actual deep appreciation for one another? or is it just pure sexual desire? I hate the fact that I just don't have that intensity during sex with my current boyfriend. he is extremely sweet, cares about me, makes me laugh, we have tons of fun together. but for some reason i just don't have that yearning for him physically. and ive felt it with other guys before so i don't know if its me being stressed or if its just not there?

and if its not there...is it ever possible to get it? i want to feel like i can't keep my hands off of him ALONG with all the other stuff. and thats not to say that i don't like the sex, i do. but i want that deep "have to have him right now" feeling y'know?

i just don't know what to do about it y'know? i feel like i appreciate everything he does for me. he would bend over backwards to make sure i'm happy. we always have fun, we talk about everything, were best friends. so why isn't that strong physical attraction there? and its not even that he's not attractive because even if we werent together i would still think he's cute.

UGH