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Originally Posted by peaches100
It seems to me also that you did what was necessary for gestalt therapy: you expressed your true feelings. If you were never allowed to do that growing up, it probably will feel very uncomfortable to you for awhile. It gets easier! 
There's nothing wrong with refusing to rephrase something if you don't want to. However, it's interesting that you mentioned this was the only time you've ever defiant toward your t. There may be some pieces of insight for you if you look more deeply at the interaction. What was behind the defiant feelings? What was it that enabled you to take a firm stance in this instance, when that is not your usual pattern of behavior? Was there something you hoped to accomplish by your refusal?
Interesting stuff. . . |
I am glad to know that it gets easier....but I have to say, I am not enjoying the discomfort.
About being defiant towards T....I haven't been in therapy for long, so perhaps it's just that the opportunity did not present itself until now. As far as what was behind the defiant feelings, at the time, I was so extremely uncomfortable with the comment I made that I wanted to shut down. T wanted me to say more, but I didn't want to.
And I had this feeling of - I'm an adult and do NOT HAVE to do what someone tells me to do. It's a CHOICE I MAKE...and THIS is the choice I'm making. I said NO and I MEAN IT.....
I guess I should have addressed that in my individual T today.....hmm.