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Originally Posted by bgmom123
I have been marreid for a few months. I was reading through my husbands email and found that he had two "emotional affairs" or maybe even "cyber sex" with two different women one of them three months before we married. Both were while we were engaged and living together. This is one man that I never thought would do something like this. I trusted him with everything I have. We are both near 40 and have children. If I had found out before we married, the wedding would have definately been put on hold.Now that we are married, I don't want a divorce. I want to trust him again. I never thought I coudl love anyone this much. Do you think it is possible to cheat and then be faithful....I don't want to be a fool.
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Did you two ever talk about cyber affairs like this?
a. If the answer is yes, you have every right to confront him on it regardless of how you found it. If it is something that you both have discussed & viewed as cheating then to me that is such a higher betrayal of trust that you reading his email is irrelevant.
b. If you did not discuss this there is an honest chance that he does not view this as cheating, thus thinking he did nothing wrong. This would be trickier because he's then going to see you reading his email as a violation of privacy which is probably viewed worse than a miscommunication or failure to communicate.