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Originally Posted by AbbysDad
He has been on Ritalin since then, but he still has a hard time being disruptive in class, not knowing when to quit teasing, very immature compared to the rest of his classmates, has no impulse control, and the list goes on. I just returned from a concert type school function, which he was part of, and I watched him with his classmates and you probably know the stark differences between how he acted during the performances and the rest of his class. When everyone was cheering and clapping, he was clamping his hands over his ears and acting like his head was exploding. When everyone was clapping to the beat of the music, he was bouncing on his chair stomping his feet. He has a tendency to over dramatize everything along with disassociating himself from the moment. In short, he gets into a fantasy world whenever the mood seems to hit, which is very often. If I keep my thumb on him.. he is as calm and focused as can be.. but I cant always be there... I dont know where to go from here.. Should I be more stern? Should I take drastic actions? Where he doesnt live with me all the time.. what can I do? I am at my wits end. Any suggestions? I am very concerned that his lack of maturity and his disassociation will lead to even bigger problems in a couple of years when he becomes a teenager and I wont know anything 
I would love to hear some suggestions, tips, anything. He is too bright, and too loving of a boy to go through life with no direction. |
Hi Abby's Dad,
help him to understand why the way he is so he can be aware and accepting of himself even though others may not understand .
over dramtizing can be the sign of someone whos expressive in the arts field such as acting. teasing can be a sign of a blossoming comedian,
the reaction to sounds may be disruptive for him to focus or hes sensitve to loud sounds.
ask him how he feels , why he needs to shut out the sound.
he needs a mother whos knowledgable about ADHD symptoms . and probably could use a good therapist specilaizing in ADHD.
maybe another drug than ritalin would help.
The part aout him bieng imature for his age. Humm... he's only 10. Im very much like your som and im over 50. Some probably think Im imature. I'm just real creative, and I like humour the crafting of it I enjoy that. Some people take offense to playful teasing it can be a way to connect .
But not if its making fun of someone whos maybe homely looking or overweight or gay or has a mental illness. Unfortunately thats what some comedians do . at others expense. We laugh at the craft of humour I think, but when its directed at our sore spots we loose sight of the genius and the spontinaety behind the comments. Ten year olds may not get this yet on both sides of in the creator and the receptor roles. Others who do not see this in another feel disturbed and then feel the need to admonish call one imature and then control another in unhelpful ways that end up bieng , well , abusive . Creativity is a wonderful thing. Its inspired at times one has no control over . When it happens its a mirical in itself . Sometimes if not expresssed in the moment it arives it can be lost. thank goodness for creativity and thinking outside the box.
Im trying to get much of what your asking for your son and some drug help too but not having much sucess . Im doing my own research . If you have the funds get him good help.
I'm sorry there is not a parent section here for you . Keep searching for support you will find it.
Patricia