Hubby and I have had a hard time lately because of my depression, I have not been pulling my weight in the house or with the children leaving it all to him while I wallow in my whatever.

He has a friend who comes around most days ( he is out in the barns only popping in for the odd coffee ) and is with him an awfull lot, well I went out for the day for a hospital appt miles away and when I got back hubby spoke to me about how things have been lately, I took it all on board and am really trying my best to 'pull my socks up' and yes I am finding it hard.

Later on in the evening his friend came in for a coffee and wouldnt give me eye contact, when he left I asked hubby if he had told him anything and hubby replied that yes he spoke to him. He says he was not negative about me just pointing out my depression ( which friend already knows about and I dont mind ) and that because of that I havent been pulling my weight and its getting to him. ( more of the same was said they had the whole day together )

Now no matter how bad it gets I never talk to anyone about hubby in a negative way as I feel that is being disloyal.

Hubby has MPD/DID and is often 'off the plot' or other things related to his disorder, I will sometimes ask from a particular person on here who has the same condition how I should handle a certain situation but never would I dream of being negative.

I know more was said as friend wouldnt give me eye contact and has been a bit short with me but hubby wont volunteer the information and without knowing the right questions to ask he wont tell me.

Am I wrong for being upset by this ?
Should I allow him to talk to his friend ?
Is he wrong in talking to someone outside the marriage without my permission ?

Please advise .....