imapatient, I think your right on track with my ex-therapist, unfortunately yestersday session unfolded without her name being mentioned (which was a good thing)

but as you stated the involvement was deeper than I was willing to accept

I think being the only male in this forum ( at least I never see many other men here)
that my transference was double what a female client might have for her therapist regardless of the sex of the therapist

men are wired differently and I wired myself to believe that she was truly a "friend" , or hate to say "girlfriend"

plenty of material for next weeks session