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Originally Posted by Brian37
I think being the only male in this forum ( at least I never see many other men here)that my transference was double what a female client might have for her therapist regardless of the sex of the therapist
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I am a male.
I had an attraction to an old T that we didn't get past; the transference was too strong and having SA issues with my mother and other things with her. I had a difficult termination with her 4 years ago when the strength of the transference came more into view with some stuff I’d written brought to her attention by a former GF who was staling me. We should’ve terminated years earlier; the wall was too high and too heavy to get beyond
That’s why I was so struck by your comment—I can sorta relate. I became very sensitive to recognizing and seriously thinking about those sorts of seemingly—but not--innocuous comments.
With the abusive stuff with my mother being at the center of my identity, seeing a female T was greatly helpful for me—more than a male T could’ve been for a lot of it. Transference was provoked more with her hence able to be worked on. But seeing a female T—or just her—became counterproductive later on. I have had 2 male T’s (2 years and 2+ years) and have never had a really strong connection via transference at all, though greatly helped by the latter/current one in many ways.
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out of my mind, left behind
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