Just what you said Michah, do this:
hold and comfort my son, mentally and physically even if he fights me and have the courage to step in when and if he needs it. I am sure he will hate me for it. Sometimes I catch a glimpse of his height and growing body and maturing face and I am breathless at his beauty. My beautiful, intelligent son. My baby in my arms as a toddler is now becoming a man and i am overwhelmed with pride. I look at him and wonder how I could create such majesty.

I only hope i can do his majesty justice.........

Hold him, comfort him, tell him just what you said here, and tell him you love him to no end, spend time with him, get to know him, make him your priority. Children have a way of loving you back in special ways, you will find it fulfilling to and at the same time build a better relationship with him, then he will not feel so different. Try meeting him half way on the language thing, this is an ever changin society, in order to understand him you may have to expand your vocabulary.
I know you will be successful, you obviously love and care about him, just make sure he knows and feels it. Good luck and please let us know how it is going