Thread: spoke up to T
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Old Apr 24, 2009, 09:35 PM
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Originally Posted by hangingon View Post
Some of you know that I had mentioned how my therapist started giving me hugs after session. Well the past two sessions she didn't offer, and I was left wondering if I did something wrong ect.

Well after session last night. Which by the way was pretty good. I was feeling kind of sad about the hug thing.

So I decided to just go for it, thought whats the worst that could happen right.....I ended up sending her an email about how she had asked before if I liked hugs and I said yes but would never ask for one; and how she said some people like them that they are kind of reassuring. Then I said that you hadn't offered the last two sessions and I was wondering if there was something I said or did that made you not want to offer, or made you think I didn't want the hugs. That I actually liked the hugs and they were very reassuring. They kind of gave me something to hold on to for the week.

So she emails me back today, thanking me for telling her that. Then she said I'm sending you a virtual hug.

I thought that was really nice of her. Not that I am not really nervous about going to see her next week after sending that email..lol

Just thought I would share. Sometimes its so hard to take that risk. Yet, you never know how it will turn out. I am sure she is going to want to talk about it yikes...
Wow, that was very brave!! And I am glad she responded the way she did. My T would NEVER offer a hug. Part of me is grateful for that, because I am so afraid of attachment issues...transference, etc....but OTOH, it would be so nice....My T doesn't even do handshakes (I learned that after my first session when I extended my hand...and he looked at me like I had two heads....he did shake my hand, but I never extended my hand to him again after that.)
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