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Apr 24, 2009, 10:34 PM
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(((Mixed))) -
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....I don't know how honest I was...and there were things I remembered that I didn't say.....
On the one hand, I feel like withholding information is not fruitful for either of us because how is he going to help me otherwise? But the topic is so....intimate...and embarrassing
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I also went through this problem. I would start to tell T something humiliating and then abort the mission and feel like I wasn't being totally honest. Finally, I just told him that sometimes I can only tell him but so much at one time and if I withhold the truth, I know I'll eventually tell him. I felt better just stating it like that. So, he knows. The more that I trust him, the easier it gets. I still tell him some really humiliating things, though, and stress over it. Such is life in the therapeutic relationship.
I find that disclosing information is very triggering, and I see it in others on here, too. I think it's a good thing that you find your T's voice calming. In my case, it means that T is providing a safe place for me and that just hearing his voice brings back that feeling of safety. I wish you well! Let us know how it goes! 
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