I am sorry you are upset - being called a victim sparks anger in me too

Maybe as has been said - you can ask your T what she meant? can you also look at your reaction? when I react to something I try to look at where my anger is comng from... they say anger is a signal that there is pain underneath waiting to be healed - I dont think you t was saying you are not trying to heal or that you should be healed by now - if she doesnt have an answer that sits well with you then maybe its time to move on - ask first though - somtimes out of ruptures comes progress