((((((((((((((((((((((exoticflower)))))))))))))))))))))))

t said something to me once EARLY in processing my rape....something like "what benefit do you get from holding on to this?" ?!?!?! I was soooo shocked and upset- we had barely scratched the surface of what happened.

I let him know (either in phone calls or at my next appt - I can't remember) how hurt and angry I was. I told him I had been holding on to that pain for YEARS and that I was JUST starting to get to the point where I was in a situation (therapy) where I could face it and let it go. I told him I didn't even feel like he was talking to ME, like he was just pulling out some "therapist response" that didn't make any sense in that moment.

He admitted that he was distracted that day, and that he was being a bad therapist. It took a lot of talking, but we got past it. And really, he is the most patient and understanding therapist in the world....he just had an "off" day and admitted it and we were able to move past it.

I do hope that if we reach a point where I am hanging onto things for some reason that he will tell me. But I WANT really badly to heal and feel better...like I did with the rape...and I can't imagine holding on to things when I could finally move past them and let them go. You never know, though.

I hope you will go back and talk to her about this. Therapists have bad days and say stupid things sometimes. I'm glad I didn't give up on my T...

((((((((((((((((((((exoticflower)))))))))))))))))))))) lots of to you!