MUE,
Maybe if you get the nerve you should try extending your hand again. Perhaps no one has done that with him in therapy in a long time and thats why the stare, but then again maybe you were interpreting it as a what the heck are you doing stare, when it may not have been that. It can be really interesting how we interpret things. It would be worth a shot, you never know

gravvy,
Have you and your T ever had talks about hugs or touch ect in therapy? Sometimes therapist won't offer because some clients absolutely hate it. Others want the client to ask for what they need. While I know that all therapists don't offer touch, there are many who do; if that is something you are needing, it may be a good idea to talk about it with her. If you don't have the nerve to do it face to face, perhaps writing her a letter or sending her and email would help. Just some thoughts..

Soliree,
Thanks, I am happy I did too, although I still sometimes worry about the fact that I asked her about it. Now that its out so to speak, it may not feel as real when she gives them. Before she would offer them on her own after session, this time I asked about them. I don't know, see how silly the brain is, or at least my brain. Now I am wondering if I should have refrained from telling her, but I do like that hugs and the change in not getting them did make me feel like I did or said something that made her change what she was doing.

Phoenix,
Thank you as well. I hope it did, I thought the email was nice of her. Guess an in session conversation may be due.

Crystalrose,
Yeah, mine started offering hugs after session on her own after I saw her for about two months. Of course she asked me first if I like them and if she could hug me. So when she didn't the past two sessions I thought maybe I did something wrong. Probably silly thinking on my part but its hard for my mind not to wander there when things change.

Ok so am I making the hug thing more confusing than it really is, or perhaps it is that confusing.......