Hi Del! This makes it tough if you are dealing with an abuser because they have a different playbook.

When you stand up for yourself you aren't looking for the person to agree because they never will if they are abusive. You speak up for yourself and then have plan B if the situation continues. You can't make anyone do what you want except through consequences like you leaving if needed. (I guess leaving would be the final plan and they wouldn't be doing what you want if it got to this). I hope this makes sense! If not please let me continue to explain!