What a complicated situation you've got going on in your life. I think a consideration may be what do you need to do for yourself that will allow you the most to meet the challenges in your life?

What does your husband think?

Sounds like you are torn between wanting to be there for him, and at the same time, having that destabilize your own mind.

Truth is, if you're unstable you're limited in how much support you can offer your family.

Just a consideration.