Thanks for all the advice. He says he hasn't actually cheated and while everyone is probably thinking I am stupid for believing that, I can usually tell when he's lying. Honestly, I think it's less about sex and more about making it known that he can have another woman or how much more attractive other women are. Maybe more of a control issue than and infedelity one. He's like that in other ways as well, when he left me for two months the first time he says it's because I didn't do the dishes. Just the other day he said that wasn't sure he wanted to stay married because I don't do the laundry enough and when I mentioned that I was registering for school, making dinner for seven people every night, studying, taking care of three kids and cleaning he agreed that it was a lot but said that it was "my job". I asked him about once I am in school, taking care of the kiddos, and working if he would still feel like I am not good enough for him he said "probably". I think a lot of this has to do with his mom, nobody will ever be good enough for her boys and she makes that very clear.