Thanks everyone for all your replies, and you all are probably on to something. She responded to me that she asks a lot of her clients this who have been trauma victims, is it okay to be okay sometimes. Like others have commented, is it the only normal I know and that is familiar to me?
In session when she asked me this, I asked her, "what do you mean, that I WANT to be a victim? I told her right then and there, NO.
But what is upsetting to me is that why ask a client that if some part of HER thought I was being a victim drama queen?

Then when you add the comment about me speaking in a speaking contest about child abuse and what happened to, as being the final stages of healing, I put the two together and it made me angry.

Well I wouldn't be in therapy in the first place if I didn't believe it was okay to be okay. right?

The whole thing smells like stinky cheese to me. She says she feels we can work this out, (yeah, but who is paying for this?) ME!
I just don't want to spend my time on the "therapy relationship" I don't want a relationship with her, and I don't feel spending time on us weeding this out is even beneficial to me. Maybe her wallet though. I can't afford spending money on the therapy relationship. Nor do I feel like working this out, I have too much other things to do. Like kids and family, my speech final this Monday and class finals next week.

So I am really frustrated about this, I have given up any hope of working on my stuff because the T's have either been unethical and/or hurt me worse than when I first started therapy 4 years ago. I am so sick of therapists and their games and it seems like she is treating me like she has learned how to from a book or something.

I just think it is so wrong to ask a client this when they are just starting to open up about how they feel, and then ask the client to qualify and judge those feelings. I certainly don't need her to judge my feelings, I feel what I feel. I feel this questions came on way too early in the game. Just allowing myself to feel took a long time and then to be able to trust her to tell her what I feel took even longer. Then when I do tell, I get this, what are you wanting to be a victim. That is just crap.

I certainly didn't need this only days before my final speech competition. Makes me not even want to do the speech, because what am I doing, being a victim drama queen according to her? I just feel like hiding away from the world again. I don't even think I have the strength anymore to even do my speech. So why am I doing in my speech about trying to stop child abuse by using my own story if I am just being a victim complaining again how bad it is to live through this? I feel like I have been totally shot done and the confidence I felt doing this has disappeared now.