Yeah guys, your getting it and therefore I am understanding it better. Thanks for allowing me a place to say it outload and get validated. Now, I really need a few clones or a half dozen more friends close by to pick up some of the slack. Except guess what. My friend's son comes and cleans for me sometimes. Last time he came I told him before hand that he should not because my hubby had no income and I wouldn't know when I could pay him. He's 22 and a good kid, wants to be supportive etc. Well, he cleaned and I owed him $20.00. He said he knew I would pay him when I could. And then today he showed up and cleaned with his girlfriend and it made hubby feel so good. There is good. Had to go to a training about 55 miles from here and got to have a colleague follow me back so I could show her a quicker, nicer route. Little things it is. I have to believe in the basic goodness in us all and our mutual desire to be cared for and supported, respected. I can disagree with people, did it with another colleague this afternoon but we respect eachother and I know she is doing what she feels is best so all I can do is give my input and respect her decision. This is really helping me a lot you all. Thank you.