If you are always waiting for the "perfect" time to have a baby then it may never happened. At least from my life experience there is never a perfect time. There is always an excuse not too.

I have never met a person that is TRUELY ready for their 1st baby. Their is always a learning curve no matter how up on it you think you are. The little grimlins don't come with handbooks like a car does, dang it!

Now my life may not be the greatest example as the people here who know my history can attest to. My first son, Storm was born when I was 18. I was definantly not ready to be a father. I was good with him, but I was just a kid myself. Plus, being a teenage boy I thought I was bullet proof & didn't fully appreciate how fragile life is & that your never promised tomorrow. I worked ALOT to provide the material things that I thought he needed. However after he died the biggest thing that eats at me now is that I worked his only birthday & all I have is a picture of him eating the cake I dropped off to him before I went to work

I thought I was in a good situation when my daughter, Samantha at 19, 2 weeks from beiing 20. Six weeks after she was born was the events that surrounded Storms death which also created unforseen curve balls in raising samantha.

When Logan was born that was probably the most "perfect" time that one of my children came into this world. I had stable work, stable family situation so that is probably when the stars were aligned the best. That being said I could have found plenty of reasons NOT to have a child at that time. We were not living in an ideal place at the time he was born.

When our daughter Sarah, who was stillborn was set to come into the world. We were in an ok place in our lives at conception. I was working, we owned our home, we had 2 cars. However, this was the same time that my wife & I decided to enter college full time & I quit my job.

After Sarah passed we talked about trying again, we decided even though we had 2 at home & were in school full time we were already psychologically ready & had all the stuff needed for a new baby so let's go...we were "ready"

SURPRISE!!! Along came the TWINS!!!

Despite it all, the only thing I would have changed is who I picked to be the mother of my first 2 kids.

Through all the ups & downs they are all the greatest things to have happened to me & I have learned more from them than I could ever teach any of them.

I don't know if my story inspires you to do it, or sends you screaming the other way...or just mixes you up more, or has no effect...

I just wanted to share