That is a toughie, just remember that the grass is always greener. Last year I met a man, the perfect man. We instantly connected on every level. He was a nuclear physicist so he was obviously all there in the brains department, we shared the same interests, he made me laugh, and he made me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. I don't know if you read the post about my husband but basically they are complete opposites. Problem is we were both married and both pretty miserable. Then came the day that he had a little too much to drink and told me that he loved me as way more than a friend. Told me that if I left my husband he would be there for me in every way possible and that he has never felt like this about anyone.

So...I made a choice and chose my husband. My feelings were that I made a commitment and regardless of if it worked out in the end it just wouldn't be right of me to end things for something that quite possibly wouldn't work out. I also have three little ones to think of and they played a factor in my decision making process.

The point is I still wonder every time my husband does something wrong if I made the right choice. I actually just told my husband how much I miss my friend terribly and he asked me if I would rather be with him because he was willing to support me. While he was opposed to us hanging out before, I think he realized how much I need someone in my life like that. I can honestly say I think I made a good decision, if I leave I don't want it to be because I love someone else but because of my own needs and wants. If I left him I wouldn't go running into the other mans arms no matter how much I wanted to because I would need time to adjust and figure things out. I could see myself if I had done the opposite and if things didn't work out between my friend and I, I would probably regret that he was my reason for leaving.

I am not telling you which way to go regarding this decision but I would look at what would happen if things didn't work out with you and your ex, how the divorce would impact yourself and your family including your husband, and if it's not just a matter of infatuation but actual love.