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Apr 27, 2009, 01:13 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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Hi...
Sorry to hear about your dog!! Pets are part of the family and it's difficult to deal with the thought of losing them.
I do have some suggestions. I don't know if they will be something you want to hear, or if they will help, but I hope they will. 
First, ask yourself, when you finally did start to cry and break down, was it because you were upset about your dog and the thought of losing her/him, or was it because you were upset that you didn't feel like you had the "right" feelings for that at the time.
Second....please, do your best to not be so harsh on yourself. Numb periods can be difficult and uncomfortable, but they can also serve a protective purpose. It sounds as if you are judging your feelings and saying you are either wrong or right for feeling the way you do. Everyone deals with grief differently, and there are no wrongs or rights about it. Your feelings, or lack of feelings at the time is okay!! Numb may not be comfortable, but maybe at that moment, that's subconsciously what your mind needed to do. This does not make you a bad person.
If it makes you feel better, maybe try talking with your parents about this, if you have a relationship were you feel that could benefit you. If not, maybe a friend or a friends parent, or another family member...but I think you're doing okay.
Keep posting here too. We'll be here for you!! Hang in there, and be patient with yourself...K.  
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